In a time where sex education isn't mandated in many parts of the country (and the world), it's no surprise that we don't know where to turn for sex advice. Sex educators are often pushed off social media platforms, letting online misinformation fester.

Thankfully, here at Mashable, we pride ourselves in providing evidence-based, inclusive advice that you won't get in school — or by watching porn, for that matter.

Here are 6 pieces of the best sex advice of 2023 (so far).

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Set your boundaries

Whether you're with a new or longtime partner, setting sexual boundaries is a must. That doesn't mean it's easy, though; communicating about sex can be difficult when we're not used to it. You don't have to rush into it, though. In fact, the first step is to figure out what your boundaries are, and only you alone can do that.

Once you know what you do and don't want in bed, set the scene for the sensitive conversation. Set a time and private place for it. Then, use "I" statements, like "I don't like to be touched there." Check out our guide to setting sexual boundaries for more in-depth tips.

Why can I orgasm from masturbation, but not sex?

If you can cum on your own but not with your partner, you're not alone. As experts told us, it's understandable to orgasm freely by yourself; you're not thinking about your performance, how you look, or focusing on your partner's pleasure instead of your own. That doesn't mean it's impossible to orgasm in partnered sex, though! Some tips are to try mutual masturbation, incorporate sex toys, and focus on exploring your own body.

Top orgasm tip

If the above tips aren't working, maybe consider the most important ingredient to achieve orgasm: emotional safety. As sex and relationship therapist Lena Elkhatib said, "Having an orgasm requires us to be able to [be] present with the sensation of pleasure in our body and relaxed enough to allow ourselves the release at climax." This can't happen if we feel unsafe, which can be caused by a variety of issues, from trauma to a judgmental partner. Our brains are the biggest sex organ, so whatever's going on "up here" will impact "down there."

How can I last longer in bed?

Our society is obsessed with lasting longer in bed — when the reality is the average time between getting an erection and orgasming is 5-7 minutes. Still, there are expert-approved ways to take your time, including edging, and taking penetration out of the equation entirely. But remember that lasting longer doesn't necessarily mean your partner wants to be penetrated the entire time! There are other ways both partners can pleasure each other, penetration or not.

I want to try kink…

Want to dive into Dom/sub dynamics but don't know where to start? Look no further than our guide, which goes over the basics of what Dom/sub dynamics actually are, different ways it could play out, how to establish boundaries, and the importance of aftercare. If your knowledge of BDSM comes from TV or movies, know that there's a lot more to explore and a lot of knowledge to learn. In fact, don't dive into a D/s dynamic before reading up about it. And, as always: the key word is "consent."

How to have sober sex

We're rounding out the best sex advice of the first half of 2023 with a breakdown of how to have sex sober. For anyone who has mostly done it under the influence, sober sex can feel daunting — and that's okay. Sex is a vulnerable act, and you may be used to dulling your senses with substances. We asked the experts for tips on how to go to into sex clear-headed, and you might even find the benefits of stone-cold sober sex — like feeling more sensations.

Be sure to keep up with our Come Again? series to see your sex questions answered any time of year.